The Desert Island Question basically asks, “If you were on a desert island and would never see another person again and could never view yourself in a mirror, would you still feel the same urgency to do what you want to do?”
This question is meant to create a teaching moment. In my experience, with my three daughters, when socially pressured requests are asked of me, reframing their request with The Desert Island Question really puts things in proper perspective for them. Then a discussion can begin in which you are teaching your children, not just dictating to them.
My children started using The Desert Island Question in their minds very quickly from a young age. A seven-year-old can understand this, and that is when I started to use it as a parenting tool. This type of parenting makes your children independent thinkers and gives them real tools that they can use their entire lives.
The Desert Island Question is a simple method to teach a child self-observation.
This question is meant to create a teaching moment. In my experience, with my three daughters, when socially pressured requests are asked of me, reframing their request with The Desert Island Question really puts things in proper perspective for them. Then a discussion can begin in which you are teaching your children, not just dictating to them.
My children started using The Desert Island Question in their minds very quickly from a young age. A seven-year-old can understand this, and that is when I started to use it as a parenting tool. This type of parenting makes your children independent thinkers and gives them real tools that they can use their entire lives.
The Desert Island Question is a simple method to teach a child self-observation.